Why sleeping on separate beds is better for couples

5 February 2019

Going to bed and waking up together is one the most intimate human actions that optimally occur when partners feel safe and secure around each other. Studies suggest further that couples are more likely to sync their sleep when the female partner is satisfied with their male partner.

Nonetheless, certain things change that make sharing the same bed with your partner close to unbearable. Maybe your partner is a snorer or a blanket hogger. Have you thought how it would be like if you slept alone again? Interesting, right?

If you find yourself in any of these five scenarios, it might be time to consider sleeping in separate beds:

You cannot stand the snoring anymore

This is the top reason why people prefer to sleep alone. Imagine coming home exhausted and still cannot sleep well because of a snoring partner! This is the last thing you want. It is estimated that snoring affects about 20% of the world population. It is caused by factors like fatigue, alcohol abuse, sleep deprivation or poor sleeping position.

In turn, sleeping beside a snorer can contribute to your own sleep deprivation. You might have to come up with ways to just survive the night – move into another room or kick them out of the bed to get some precious snooze.

Your partner steals the blanket

It is in the middle of the and probably having the sleep of your life, feeling warm and cosied up in your blanket…then it is taken away from you. You are left in the open with cold nighttime temperatures.

No doubt your partner is a blanket thief, or are you a blanket thief? This is obviously not a good feeling. Therefore, if sleeping in separate beds is not an option, you might want to consider sleeping with separate blankets.

One of you sleeps hot

Feeling warm in bed is great and it gets too warm. It is comforting getting snuggling with your partner especially during cold nights and it feels like your partner is your personal heater. But again during hot nights do you still want them close or push them further away because it is too hot for physical contact?

Sleep experts recommend that a temperature of 18 degree celsius is perfect for sleep but do they consider the fact that people have different body temperatures when sleeping? Again sleeping separately is not the ultimate solution, you might need to invest in a breathable premium mattress to ensure neither of you is sleeping hot.

Because of kids

Whenever a baby is born, it develops erratic sleeping schedules that may force a couple to sleep separately. This is simply because their mothers need to nurse their babies 8-12 times within a 24 hour period! In such instances, it is best to let your partner sleep on another room during the first few months of breastfeeding.

At the end of the day, sleeping separately must be a mutual agreement between any couple. It should keep your relationship happy , not complicate it. It is safe to say sleeping separately is not for the faint of heart – it is often for genuinely happy couples who really could use some sleep.


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